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Getting Rid of Those...Ah...Annoying Speech Fillers

11/21/2010

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It affects just about every speaker, especially when speaking off the cuff: the use of "ahs" and "ums" to fill space and time while thinking of what we're going to say next. It's okay once in a while. Some politicians even weave a bit of it into their speaking style to come off as deeper thinkers, or so it seems. But it can wear thin and before long, the audience gets, ah, well, annoyed.

Here are some ideas for avoiding those fillers:
  1. Pause before you speak. Just take a breath, think, and don't rush to fill the empty space. This is hard, because we're programmed to think that saying nothing suggests we're stupid. A brief pause is acceptable.
  2. Use a verbal pause, such as "well," or "that's a good question," or "let me see, now." All of these phrases serve the same purpose of buying you a bit of time when coming up with your response.
  3. Think ahead to the end of your thought so that you know where the sentence is taking you. Most of our "fillers" are used because we're still formulating how to end the sentence. Be proactive in where you're going with your message. Think all the way to the end and then finish your thought.
  4. Use "and" and "so" instead of "um" or "ah." Try using them when you need a second or two to re-frame your thinking.
Perhaps the best advice is to simply be aware of the problem. Record yourself if necessary. See what verbal crutches you use and whether you toss around a lot of "likes" and "you knows" as well.

When I was in a Toastmasters club we used to have someone who counted the "ums" and "ahs." Find your own "ah" counter and see if he or she will help you get over this bad habit.


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Katyhunny
11/26/2010 02:59:30 pm

I like your suggestions. Being a retired police officer, I remember well the advice which my Dad gave me with regard to testifying in court. He said that I should take a three second beat before responding to any questions especially on cross-examination. This would allow the Assistant State's Attorney time to object, if necessary, and give me a few moments to organize my thoughts. That little three seconds is an eternity at times and gives one plenty of time to respond without sounding stupid. It served me well for 23 years. What do you think, Wes?

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11/26/2010 10:45:39 pm

Good advice, though 3 seconds in a speech or interview segment can really be a long time. The idea of a brief pause, however, is right on. Thanks.

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